Tuesday, September 1st, 2015
Meet Mikala Williams, who quotes lines from her favorite movies when seen as applicable to real life situations, usually in a British accent.On purpose. Seems to be working for her so far. She believes her White Spirit mother is Tina Fey and/or Britney Spears, before the 2000s. Could be your grandmother’s best friend, ferrr sure. Hair, shoes and bags are all things you can never have enough of and she shops more than she should (story of my life). Not proud of that…but you know, life! She likes lemon in her water, and champagne in her glass.”Hope that satisfies your “blogger’s byline appetite”, you filthy animals” – I quote.
She might be my long lost twin sister, born a day after me…no but really. We tend to finish each other’s sentences and say things that the other may be too coy to say…welcome her to 2ndandL, she might end up being your new best friend.
PGS, And How to Conquer.
So…you feel trapped in a job that you absolutely hate. You can’t quite run out your place of employment flipping tables screaming, “The man can suck it!” and chuck the deuce. You now have this fascinating, yet repulsive thing called responsibility you have to maneuver. You have a car note, and bills, and student loans and rent to pay. You’ve learned what Auto-Pay means and every month you consider becoming a Sugar Baby. Or maybe that’s just me.
Afraid of what my future held, I had the added pressure and challenge of finding a job fresh out of school that was relative to the field of Communication Studies. “You could do anything in the communications industry”, they said. Yet here I was just…kind of lost. So I said to myself, “Self, I suppose it’s time to buck up, and buckle down.” Of course, one of the many little voices in my head kept pestering:”Did I really just bury myself alive in student loans to wake up every single Monday through Friday at 6 am, and sit in traffic for an hour, and sit at a desk for another 8 hours? Where the f*ck is my PTO and why do I have so little of it? Is there a light at the end of this dark ass tunnel???” *In my best cockney British accent* Excuse me, Millenials (not you, Kanye). May I ‘ave a word? I believe I may ‘ave ‘ound a propah diagnosis…If you find yourself, questioning yourself in this way, you may be suffering from post-graduate stress syndrome.
What is post-graduate stress syndrome? Did you just make this up? Are you some kind of whimsical fairy doctor that’s super relatable to all my twenty-something struggles. Well I’m glad you asked, and yes I did make it up…and yes I am your relatable Godsend.
Post-graduate stress (PGS) includes but not limited to the following symptoms:
•Intense anxiety levels
•Frequently biting your tongue when your manager asks if you need more work to do because you have your phone in hand.
•Feelings of inadequacy
•Strong urges to declare “I have a DEGREE!” (This usually proceeds with storming out of a room, slamming doors, flipping tables, etc.)
•Repetitive thoughts of quitting your job
•Actually quitting your job
•Quitter’s remorse (This usually leads to a downward spiral effect of painful regret, depression, etc.)
•A series of “What the hell am I going to do now?” conversations with your cool Aunt.
•Wondering why you just didn’t go to law school.
•Doing the bare minimum at your job, because you “just can’t”.
•Actively pretending to be busy (This is a job in itself).
•Lying in bed to only stare at the ceiling…for hours.
If you suffer from any of these symptoms, I’ve got good news and I’ve got bad news. Bad news is, none of these things are going to help achieve any of your career desires and aspirations. Good news is…you’re okay. And everything’s going to work out in the end. I’ve learned in my experience that you can’t continue to dwell on what isn’t in your life, rather what is. Stop worrying, and start doing. Trust in the God that still provides for you, even when you aren’t so faithful. Use the faith that you already have, bro. *Jumps down from pulpit*
Of course it’s often that idle minds wander. Perhaps that is a sign it’s time to switch the gears of your thought life out of neutral, and into a propelling state. As much as you’ve probably heard from your church going cigarette smoking wine drunken grandma, “everything happens for a reason, baby.” Which in retrospect, I’ve learned to be true. We’re in our current situations for preparation. All lessons are applicable to our future. Whether it’s an experience we will experience tomorrow or years later, just simply keep our eyes and heart open for enlightenment.
- Just a thought.
Monday, August 31st, 2015
Black Again? Surprise. It’s not my favorite color, but I do like to wear it. Uninterrupted black is always my go to look when I’m indecisive, and it never fails me! The transition weather is here and some days are cooler than others. I combined a backless bodysuit Ive had for some time, with some distressed denim and minimal heels! It was super comfy, and the backless look definitely gave it some edge. Im eager to do more fall looks, and especially ready for a jacket! Follow me Instagram @2ndandL and on Snapchat @iPaintinheels to keep up with art, fun, and fashion!
What Im Wearing:
1. Body Suit-American Apparel 2.Jeans-Forever 21 3.Shoes-Zara 4.Bag-ZARA 5.Sunnies-ASOS
Monday, August 24th, 2015
Fashion, Groceries, and Nike…why not?
I came across this editorial spread from Elle South Africa that was published last summer (super late but still), and I just fell in love with it. I fell enough in love with it to draw it, of course. To read more about the spread, visit Fashion of Culture (hey Sabby!) If you haven’t checked out this award winning blog, do so! NOW! Fashion, Culture, Color, and all things FAB!
Here’s my illustrated rendition! When the heels come off, throw on some sneakers!
Saturday, August 22nd, 2015
Sometimes it seems like the storyline never changes. Different characters, same plot, and the exact same ending. Constant trial and error, and hoping that maybe, just maybe, the next time would be different. It’s usually not.
Thorough planning, vision boards, lists, and schedules. It works, you know? Until it doesn’t. About a year ago (I try not to revisit that moment too often), I wrote about protection of peace. That soon became my mantra, and it still is. A year later, with many changes, and many victories, I am revisiting peace.
At this very moment, I’m relaxing in calming waters. I use the word relaxing loosely. I still have a whole list of goals I’m trying to accomplish, things I’m trying to see, and stuff I feel like I need to learn. I’m not letting those ‘to-do’s’ distract me from my current calm. If you knew what it took for me to find this place…tuh. Anxiety and I were besties. I have found a happy medium, a middle ground. A safe place between where I was and where I’m going, “somewhere between I want it and I got it” (Word to Drake). I am ok. No, everything isn’t perfect. Yes, I have ish to do. But, I am ok. I am safe, and I am at peace. But listen…let me tell you how easy it is to lose that balance.
Entropy- the tendency toward disorder. Order is imagined, and so is perfection. Things are going to happen, plans are going to fail, and crap will get icky. That is life. Disorder and chaos help you appreciate the moments of peace. Sometimes when I’m taking a ride on the good vibes train, the most absurd things happen. Everything was going so well…then all of a sudden KABOOM, vibes deflated. Through these experiences, I have come up with a few tokens to keep me afloat.
Protect your Peace.
Monday, August 17th, 2015
I met fate.
This isn’t the first time…and she visits me often. She makes me remember things as I sleep, that I sometimes forget when I’m awake. Her friends visit me too, you know them? Purpose and destiny. They tend to linger, while fate just drops in. Sometimes I get That feeling that you just know that you know…but then you question if you know anything. Yea, I know. Inevitable manifestation. No matter the turns, you end up in the Same place. Reassuring isn’t it? Maybe not. Spiritual awakening and divine discourse.
I met fate. This isn’t the first time…and she visits me often.